Great.

Well - that - blew up in my face.

:(

I mentioned to my gf that I wondered if I could ask her about some things I'd discovered while reading about Aspergers - and, even though she herself was the one to tell me that since her brother is Autistic and her father likely is, as well (though never diagnosed), that she more than likely has some Autistic spectrum traits - she kinda freaked out about it.

:(

She hates "labels" - and wishes not to "identify."  While I respect this, I'm not asking her to accept a label - there's just something that reminded me of a thing in our relationship - that I happened to read in a discussion on an Aspergers blog.  And since the thing was kind of a big deal, within our relationship, when it happened--and since it's still kinda technically going on--I really wanna talk about it.  I want to understand each other better.  I want to have understanding (of maybe why it happened, and what we can do, or how we can improve things).

She...got angry.

:(

She really doesn't even wanna touch on her (potential) Asperger-like traits.  Doesn't want to think about it; can't discuss anything having to do with it--etc.  (It seems / is becoming clear.)


But...  *sighs*

She said if I ever needed to talk to anyone else about her & I - for support, to help me (work things through), etc. - that that was fine.  And she offered this.  I hadn't asked.  She just out-of-the-blue said that to me, one day.

So...I just don't see why this isn't similar.  I sought 'support' outside of our relationship (by reading some stuff) - and I want to talk about things (now) that are relevant to our relationship.  :(

Apparently that last part (the talking together about whatever kind of 'support' I sought/received) wasn't part of the deal????  *hangs head*

This is bad....