Thoughts on Instinctual types II

I have a friend who self-identifies as a Self-Preservation subtype.

I'm going to withhold for now what her Enneagram type is, solely for the reason that I think it might distract from the conversation.

What I find difficult to understand about my Self-Pres friend is what she wants.  In life.  She strikes me as restless.
(I think I'm restless, inside, too, but in a different way.)

Her restlessness feels to me like almost a nervous restlessness.  Not that she's nervous, and that's what makes her restless, but rather that her restlessness eats away at her, with something like an anxious urgency.  I tend to find myself feeling a little bit on the edge of restless and dissatisfied with I'm-not-sure-what when I'm with her, too.  But I'm pretty sure it's not my own.  When I leave, I feel fine, or, I get back to my own brand of  partial restlessness, part patient understanding.

Not to get off on a side conversation, but I kind of feel that the solace I have and that she seems to not have has to do with my having found my spiritual grounding; I've found the path toward what I am looking for, and, imperfect and meandering though my travel on it might be, toward home, I know, from the heart, I'm on it.  I've had my heart's questions answered...the deepest (most) of them...to my satisfaction.  It is a HUGE thing.  Anyway, my friend doesn't have that.
I wish it for her.  But that's not the point.

I'm trying to see how this relates to her Self-Pres-ness.  I'm also trying to compare what I experience with her to the other probable Self-Pres types I've known.

Ah: Here's one (I think):  I often feel like the Self-Pres types I know are looking for something, in the real world, that they can do, acquire, make, create, achieve--that will bring them something they feel they are seeking, or longing for, inside.  Perhaps a state.  Maybe they are looking for a state; I'm not sure.

But when I think of my Self-Pres type friends, I think of or see it as a lump of clay in their hands.  They know they can do something with the clay; they know the clay has near-unlimited potential uses; and whatever it is they feel they need to have, in life, they feel that they can bring it about from that clay--that thing, that substance.  The stuff of the real world that they can shape, that has form.

Even essence, or spirit.  I almost get the sense that they think that if they do just the right thing with that clay--create just right, use just right...arrange it just right, or show to others just right, or whatever...if they just do it, out of it, magically, will come even spirit or essence.

And that they spend perhaps even their whole lives, pursuing that idea.

I think that's where my friend's frustrated.  Maybe, if I've hit the nail on the head even just a little, that explains it.

I'm a Relational subtype, so I come from this bias:  An answer from an unfulfillment comes from a source.  [I'm deliberately recalling here my sense of the longing, my feeling of it, before I'd really call myself a Christian]  Somewhere, some Source has the answer, and it's like either They're hidden, or They're hiding "it"; but I know They're out there.  I just knew, had the sense, that somewhere, out there, there was...like a 'Person' (not an actual human-person), who would give me the answer, or yield to me the answer...eventually.  If I kept chasing it, dogging after it enough.  Pursuing the 'Person,' the Source.

I knew I could find it; it was like he was leaving a trail.  Little hints and clues of the answers my soul was chasing, here and there...always leading ever onward--somewhere.

But what I wonder is:  Is this sense of the 'what' you're pursuing, for your answers, in life ~ to your life questions ~ dependent on the Instinctual bias you come from?  So that I don't hurt my brain, today, I'm going to skip trying to put any thoughts or words to what Socials pursue, or see, when the shape of their longing takes form in their eyes.  It's too hard for me {Social-last}.

But I wonder if my sense of having to pursue something that I very much felt as a "person," a personality- that Source- comes because I am a Relational/Intimate type.

Maybe I'm full of it, today.

I have no clue what Self-Preservation types feel or see, in their soul's quest.  I was just speculating.  I wonder if I'm not too far off; but I really wish I could get feedback or confirmation from experienced Self-Pres types.