Thoughts on Astrology & Birth Month

Since I find systems of study which make the world make sense for me soothing, I would like to be able to say that astrology has something to it.

But for my own purposes I've looked-- and I can't.

BUT: There is something about birth months and people that I can't throw away. As much as I've tried to find what the kernel of truth about the system of astrology might be, and have continually been frustrated by the efforts when following astrology's own rules, when I ignore the 'wisdom' of its literature and just step outside of it into my own experiences, I do find something.

But I won't name it. I don't think it has a name. [I welcome any enlightenment from anyone who knows, out there, if what I'm about to describe does have a name. Thanks!]

I've definitely noticed in my life that the people I find myself drawn toward, and experience an attraction toward, fall into a pretty small range of birth months. I'll list the signs, astrologically, that the people I'm thinking of have belonged to within these months as well, as I can't deny that I think this distinction (which narrows down a birth month into roughly 1/2 a month) has held, as well.

They are:

(Tier one)
January (Capricorn)
June (Cancer)

(Tier two)
May (Taurus)

(Tier three)
July (Leo)
October (Scorpio)
December (Sagittarius)

I know; you're saying, "Small? That's six months out of twelve."

But the reason I put them into tiers was to limit and qualify: The majority, by far, of the people that I make friends with, feel more interest in, attempt to get closer to, spend more time interacting and sharing parts of myself with, and form and retain longer-term relationships with, are the Tier 1 birth month people.
Also, the Tier 1 pattern has shown to repeat itself, over the course of my life.

There are definite differences between the January and the June people, but what they share in common as regards relationship to me, I think, is that I 'get' them; and, they stick around. The fact that they'll hold place is one part of what helps me to get to know them, to 'get' them, deeper- but the 'getting' them does go beyond just that. I just understand something fundamental, in each. And apparently they the same with me.

They're both (Junes and Januarys) patient; one set more passionate, maybe, than the other- but both patient. Both hang on, root down, or dig in, in one way or another. If they were ever 'done,' they'd let me know, I know. There'd be an integrity to it, and a finality about it.


Tier 2 I would describe as people with whom I feel a definite affinity and similarity. I find them soothing, and kindred spirits; they feel gentle and yet deep, and understanding, and underlying it all, passionate about something, I feel--even the ones who don't say it, or let it show in a big outward way. It's like a really powerful undercurrent; that's the best way to express the way I feel it.
I always get along well with these people, and enjoy being near them, whenever I am, and I feel I grow and am expanded and raised up a few levels (I don't know a better way to describe this) or something, somehow, when I engage with them & talk to them, and when we share things with each other.
But I don't tend to cling on to these people- for whatever the reason. It's not that anything bad happens, or they hurt or disappoint me or I them, in any way, or that we start to like each other less or find the other less interesting. It's just that with these people it tends to be more like fellow travelers, not going together to the same place or making the journey together, but passing each other, and having a lot in common experienced or our perceptions of the things we've experienced being highly the same. It's fun to share; we feel kindred to each other; and then we share, with twinkling eyes, and shake hands, slap backs, and continue on our way.

Okay, okay...you may have guessed - I also am in Tier 2.

But anyway- I just don't have any long-term relationships in this level. Neither would I describe the affinity to them as being an attraction in the sense of being the same as those of Tier 1. It's non-magnetic in nature. (-There we go!)


Tier 3 is really loose...I don't have many that are in there, and they're not at all "frequent." But they're not rare, either. And there's definitely a kind of a draw, or attraction.

And I would almost throw out Leo (or July), but I cannot because of 2 poignant relationships, one a Cancer but who was born in July, and the other a Leo born in July. [See what I mean about the wiggle room needed on whether it's the month or the 'sign' that's the thing? -More on this later, too.]

I find those people in Tier 3 that I've known to be sparkly (to me) and special...but they also feel hard to hold onto, and also frighten me just a bit. They either play too fast and too loose, or just a little bit too volatile (for my comfort level), or always seem about ready to fly. I find that I want to get to know them more deeply, but I am afraid of investing and being attached to ones who can't even hold onto themselves, or keep the edges or lines of themselves solid & from scattering or flying apart. Or, perhaps the fact that when they do, it often injures me, but they keep going, unscathed. And live to do it again. -Usually not very much later.

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So, most of my fundamental, important (in a lifelong sort of sense) relationships are with people born in January and June. Or Capricorns and Cancers.

I can't deny or get away from the truth of it, and the recurrent tenacity of the pattern.

It's something that I'll continue to pay attention to, and probably always think on. I just don't understand why this can be so, and yet the only art or study which has this as a fundamental element of it, seem to be so completely wrong and flawed and be full of bupkus.

Basically, it's made me decide to throw anything that astrology says away (and I've picked over a great deal of astrology's details), and just go from my own observations. Just start with what I see, and see if I can observe some truths from scratch.

The only thing I'm 'borrowing,' tentatively, are perhaps the beginning and end dates of astrology's birthsigns, to divvy up the months with. Because I have seen a difference between people born in the early half of a month vs. those born in the latter half. A pretty major difference.

But, I have had some super-firm disagreement with the supposed descriptors astrology gives for people born under its sunsigns. Disagreement that no 'special consideration of other astrological factors in play at the time and place of their birth' would rectify.

Sometimes a framework that's already been built by someone else can do more harm than good in discovering and verifying what's really true.